Why are you so hard on yourself?

Has this ever happened to you? You want to send a text to someone and your phone or tablet decides what it wants you to say instead of you saying what you want to?

“I have to go to the sorry”
“*sore”
“**stork”
“STORE, I meant the store! Stupid autocorrect, lol.”

Happens all the time, right?

Guess what else autocorrects? We do.

Does this sound familiar?

“Oh hey, [Insert your name here], you look so pretty today!”

You: “OMG, this old dress? I seriously dug it out of the back of my closet. Ugh, I’m such a wreck.” (Smooth dress, tuck hair behind your ear, duck your head and walk away).

It happens all too often. Social paradigms tell us we cannot get dressed in the morning and look in the mirror and say, “Damn, I look great!” and then accept the compliments that follow throughout the day.

Why can’t we think we look great? Why aren’t we allowed to accept that another person finds us attractive and say thank you?

It’s because, gasp, what will they think of you? Will they think you’re so self-centered that you can actually take a compliment and think, then, that you’re the most conceited person in the world?

We autocorrect everything!

I call it autocorrecting because it’s your subconscious that makes us do it. Naturally, your brain wants to accept the compliment, but because you’ve have been wired to uphold societal constructs and fit into the correct mold, you autocorrect, well automatically.

You probably don’t even think twice about it or perhaps even realize you’re doing it.

And every time you do, you do a disservice to your amazing self that exists. You chip away a piece of your fabulousness and you mold yourself tighter into that “perfect” box that exists.

What if, now just hang with me…what if you accepted yourself for everything you are? Wouldn’t it be amazing to no care what others think about you?

How freeing would that be?

By autocorrecting, you’re fueling a negative opinion of yourself and continuing to build up your “not good enough”  status.

STOP IT!

Think of someone you love in your life. Got that person? Husband, kids, friend? OK, now imagine that someone tells you that said person is ugly, or a jerk.

What is your gut reaction? Your knee jerk response is to disagree and defend that person. You don’t see one ounce of what that ridiculously wrong person is saying and you defend your loved one with every fiber of your being.

You don’t love yourself? You can’t defend yourself? You can’t elevate yourself to a status where compliments are real and true?

You are beautiful. You deserve the opportunity to love yourself. Again, how freeing would it be to go with the flow, to feel the words, to soak up the compliments?

Do me a favor and think about it next time. You, beautiful lady, are worth it.