Understanding high expectations and how to manage them

Understanding high expectations and how to manage them

It’s hard to understand and manage high expectations. I have high expectations for my birthday every year. I love my birthday. I always say that your birthday is the only day the truly focuses on just YOU. Every other holiday is spent focusing on other things or celebrating for different reasons. Your birthday is all about you; unique and wonderful you.

I started at a new company about 5 years ago. I have always had friends at work and decorated their desks on their birthday, brought them a card or did something to make them feel ultimately special. I think it’s important.

But at this new company, I didn’t really have friends. So, for the first 3 years that I was there, my desk never got decorated and nobody at work even acknowledged it was my birthday. Every year, I went home disappointed and let down.

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Self-Awareness: Understanding Where it Comes From

Self-Awareness: Understanding Where it Comes From

To achieve self-awareness, here’s the best advice I can give to you. Always stay true to yourself. There’s so much crap filtering into our brains on a daily basis, sometimes it’s hard to distinguish our real thoughts from the thoughts we’re hearing and believing from others.

We’ve become so ingrained to listen to what is trending, and what we should be promoting about ourselves through social media at large that we’re all hopping on the “self-help” bandwagon and showcasing of our best traits to the world.

With this boom in the promotion of self-awareness and personal transformation, I wonder if we aren’t – in the process, actually giving up MORE of our identity to societal expectations.

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Why don't strangers smile?

Why don't strangers smile?

What would the world be like right now if we, as adults, could as effortlessly accept new people into our lives with open arms.

But we can't. We've been jaded, burned and hurt. We've had our fair share of gossip, that we have both been on the giving and receiving end of.

Do you smile at a stranger when they pass you by? Have you ever noticed how many people don't look you in the eye and smile?

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Clear emotional clutter from your life

Clear emotional clutter from your life

The other side of clutter though, is the figurative clutter. As women, we tend to clutter our schedules with a lot of "must do's" instead of "want to do's". Our lists every week grow longer and longer with things to do for everyone else, we forget - so often - to add something for ourself to our list of things to do.

So if you ever hear me talking about clearing clutter, I'm likely more speaking about the emotional clutter that stands in the way of our optimal happiness. There's a difference between filling your calendar with things you want to do and filling it with things you have to do.

One of those options leads to much more beneficial emotional health.

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Life lessons from a child

Life lessons from a child

It's interesting when we're taught life lessons by little ones who see the world in a completely different perspective than we do. 

Today, I want to share one of my favorite stories with you. This happened last year on October 7, 2017. I hope you enjoy the read as much as I enjoy re-living that moment.

Today, I was humbled. I was humbled by my 6 year old.

I had an opportunity to run my first 5k 16 weeks after breaking my foot. It was my “return to action” race.

It was a small race and looking at the registration the evening before, I knew that I could place, if not win, my age group. Awesome, right? A first place medal to bring  me back into my running mode.

This morning, I woke up in the morning wondering if Cadie wanted to run with me. I knew she could do it, but it was definitely going to slow me down.

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Do you feel bad about setting boundaries.

Do you feel bad about setting boundaries.

So here’s what happened then. I decided it was healthy to clear clutter and toxic from my life. I decided to reach into me and be with people I trust and love and I know are my truth. Many people can’t handle that and retaliate with nastiness as a defense mechanism.

The point I am making here is that you shouldn’t ever feel obligated to keep a negative presence in your life. As coaches, we talk a lot about clearing clutter. A lot of times, we’re talking about physical spaces, but many times, we’re talking about the clutter that bogs down your mind and soul, too.

This can be people, jobs, events or anything else not physical that gets in the way of you getting to your goal.

 

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Women: Take Back Your Power

Women: Take Back Your Power

I did everything I was supposed to do for 33 years.

That’s when I realized, I wasn’t fooling anybody. I was on anti-depressants and anti anxiety medications and the tiny little voice in my head that kept telling me I was supposed to be doing something different got louder and louder until I just couldn’t ignore it anymore.

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Will life get better when I reach my goals?

Will life get better when I reach my goals?

A lot of times, we learn that life isn’t better when we reach our goals it’s just different. There will always be a new goal and there will always be a new way to reach it.

I challenge you to start thinking about what you have tried in the past and why it has failed – whatever the goal may be. Then, look at it from a different angle, a different perspective. Ask someone that you trust to tell you honestly why you may have failed.

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