Clear emotional clutter from your life

You may hear me talk about clearing clutter a lot. What does that mean?

Clutter can be physical things in your environment that stop you from achieving optimal results. Many times, we look around our house and we find physical clutter. It can be too many snack options in the pantry. Perhaps, your kitchen table is a dumping ground for mail. If your desk is disorganized at work, that can hinder productivity - especially when you spend a good amount of your time searching through papers to find what you're looking for.

The other side of clutter though, is the figurative clutter. As women, we tend to clutter our schedules with a lot of "must do's" instead of "want to do's". Our lists every week grow longer and longer with things to do for everyone else, we forget - so often - to add something for ourself to our list of things to do.

So if you ever hear me talking about clearing clutter, I'm likely more speaking about the emotional clutter that stands in the way of our optimal happiness. There's a difference between filling your calendar with things you want to do and filling it with things you have to do.

One of those options leads to much more beneficial emotional health.

So this week, I challenge you - take a look at your schedule and clear one piece of clutter off of it.

I'm asking you to sit down and take some time for yourself. Take a look at all the things you have on your calendar this week. Go through each day by the half hour and see what you have planned or you know you will be doing that day - as a routine. 

Then, put a star next to the things that excite you to do and an X next to the things that you really dread.

If you have nothing that excites you, which really can be a problem for all of us, then add something on one day this week.

Start thinking about some time you're going to take to do something for yourself. I was just speaking with someone the other day who was feeling good because she had begun to spend more time on her skin care routine at night and that became a treat to herself. She felt like that time, spent focusing on her health and care, was time that she was taking for herself and she enjoyed it.

Clearing time for yourself can be anything from setting time to go to a yoga class or taking a long run or even just having a bubble bath and a glass of wine at the end of a long day after the kids are in bed.

You'll be surprised what kind of mental clarity can accompany even the smallest of time taken to focus on yourself.

Sometimes, you'll be surprised what emotions surface that you didn't even know were there. I've had women tell me that in their moments of taking time for themselves, they have cried and had an emotional release without even knowing why - but find it cathartic to have that release.

So - use this template and start to think about your days this week. Write down what you'll be doing at each time. If you have free time - great! If you don't have free time, do yourself the service of crossing one thing off your list that is not going to provide fulfillment and fill it in with something that will bring you joy. It's ok to focus on yourself. Nobody is going to go hungry, the laundry and dishes will not rot and you won't lose any friends. I promise. Tell me what you've decided to eliminate from your calendar this week and what you decided to do for yourself. I can't wait to hear!

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