What if I'm just not OK?

Let’s be real here for a sec. Life is crazy and wonderful and beautiful and every new experience is awesome because we get to experience it.  We have a life to experience with all these crazy ups and downs and for that, we get to sit back and be thankful.

BUT – let’s call a spade a spade. It’s not always bubblegum and roses, is it? Life downright sucks sometimes. Sometimes, out of nowhere we’re blasted with news or happenstance that just throws us for a loop when we least expect it.

I have a tattoo on my arm that says, “You are exactly where you are meant to be”. That doesn’t mean we WANT to be here right now, it just means that we are here – like it or not.

Finding the silver lining inside the dark clouds is hard at times. Scratch that, it’s always hard to see the silver lining. Especially when you’re covered in doom and gloom with every passing turn.

I understand. But, the reason the tattoo is on my arm is because I have been in the darkest, smallest of spaces, not knowing which way to turn to find the light to get out. Eventually though, while grappling forward and struggling with putting one foot in front of the other, I found my way out – just like you have or will, beautiful lady.

The unexpected is what makes life beautiful; it’s also what makes us as strong as superheroes. How else can you get stronger and grow as a woman if you don’t have a struggle to overcome?

I’m sure you don’t want to overcome anything. Of course it’s easier just to go through the motions and not have to deal with emotion and obstacles and bumps in the road, but those bumps are going to build your character.

There’s one important thing to note though, as you’re going through this journey. Don’t go through it alone.  There’s always someone there to help you through. Find someone; a mother, a brother, a sister, a friend, a co-worker, a therapist, a coach – just talk to somebody. Otherwise, the feelings live inside and take on a life of their own, overcoming any bit of happiness that you are worthy to feel.

It’s really important to let those feelings out. Many times we don’t want to admit there is something going on or that there is a problem, but when it stares us in the face every day or is the only thing we can think about every moment of every day, then you need an outlet. You need somewhere to offload that pain or it’s going to begin to manifest itself in other ways with serious ramifications on your overall mental wellbeing.

Journaling is a great outlet to express your emotions. Many times just writing things down allow the many stuck emotions and thoughts to escape your mind and nobody even needs to read it. You can write it and burn it and then it’s gone. But along with it are some of the negative emotions associated with your situation.

It’s not going to go away over night. It’s not going to go away sometimes for years, but it will slowly begin to diminish and you can begin to move on. The woman who emerges on the other side will be stronger and smarter and more brilliant than the one who first entered into the situation in the first place.

Trust that there is always a way out and always someone to talk to. You don’t have to go it alone.